The golden rules of dating royalty, from talking chic to what not to wear

The Royal Family will be out as the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee is celebrated over a four-day weekend in June. And many royalists will wonder what they would do if they came face to face with one of the family.

Linguistic and cultural experts from Busu have put together a handy guide to what you should and shouldn’t do when approaching the Royal Family. You will need to be aware of the correct form of address and the type of body language that is advised to be used.

A Busuu spokesperson said: “There are a lot of rules surrounding the royal family: the language that should be used when addressing them, the body language that we should follow, and much more. Using the correct title when addressing a member of the royal family is extremely important, especially since all members of the royal family will have their own title.

“Whether you’re in the presence of a member of the royal family or in a very formal setting, these tips will certainly help you to integrate.”

Use the right titles

When we refer to the Queen, we must first call her “Your Majesty”. After that, you can call her “Madam”. This is similar when addressing family members like the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.

You should start by calling them “Your Royal Highness”, and then you can call them “Sir” or “Madam”.


You should try to speak in a slightly more formal tone when speaking to a member of the royal family and, in order to show that you are giving them your full attention, it is essential that you maintain eye contact at all times.

Body language

Correct body language is important when addressing a member of the royal family. You should have good posture, avoid slouching or standing in closed positions, such as arms crossed. Try either holding your hands together in front or putting them behind your back.


Women seated in skirts or dresses should keep their legs together and tilt them to the left or right. If you look closely, this is how the Duchess of Cambridge tends to sit and this is also how Princess Diana used to sit. Although you can cross your ankles, one thing you should never do is cross your legs. This is one of the worst things you can do, as far as etiquette goes!

Men, on the other hand, can cross their legs, but should avoid sitting with the ankle on the knee and the leg bent.

Avoid physical contact

The Royals will have plenty of security around them but, regardless, you should avoid physical contact such as handshakes and hugs. You should only shake hands with a member of the royal family if they extend theirs first.

Be dressed properly

It is said that in the presence of royalty, you should avoid wearing anything that exposes your arms. Formal attire is recommended. Jeans and sneakers will be unacceptable.

Table manners

When dining with royals, proper table etiquette is to keep elbows, arms and hands off the table. Having your elbows on the table while eating is said to suggest overindulgence, which was known to sound like a “peasant woman”.

Once at the table, you must also wait for the hostess to unfold her napkin and place it on her lap before unfolding yours.

Use the right utensils

When you officially dine, you will notice several utensils in front of you. The rule of thumb is to go from the outside in and start with the smallest utensils.

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